What I’m Looking For in a Relationship

About Me

I’m an entrepreneur, builder, and deep thinker who moves fast and dreams big. I value growth, clarity, and excellence in everything I do—from my work to my relationships. I’ve dropped out of school, won fellowships, built startups, and now spend my time optimizing for creating the life that I dream of. I’m intense but grounded, serious about my mission but playful in the way I live. I care deeply, love hard, and am building a life that’s anything but ordinary.

Quirks / What You’re Getting Into

• My sleep can be inconsistent, but I love 6am-8am mornings and go to bed before midnight.

• I meditate, work out, journal, and track habits—structure brings me peace.

• I’m securely attached now, though I’ve done the work to overcome anxious-avoidant patterns. Emotional safety and consistency matter to me.

• My love languages: physical touch, quality time, and acts of service.

• I don’t use drugs and I’m intentional with alcohol or any vice.

• I go deep, fast—I’m not here for surface-level.

• I test weird supplements, study energy work, and believe in both God and science.

• I’ve mapped out the chapters of my life—who I want to be, what I want to build, and everything I want to experience. I keep a vision board and review it often.

• I live with high standards—if you’re not growing, we won’t click.

• I’ll challenge you, hype you up, and go all-in if we’re aligned.

• I’m not a great texter and prefer just chatting in person. 

What I’m Looking For in a Relationship

I’m intentional with who I give my time, energy, and heart to. I’m looking for something rare—deep connection, shared purpose, spiritual alignment, and real devotion.

I’ve built a strong foundation for my life and want a partner who complements and amplifies it. The right relationship is a force multiplier—it makes life richer, more meaningful, and more fun. I want a best friend, teammate, and lover in one.

What This Looks Like

• We see each other at least 2x per week with one non-negotiable date night that’s the same time each week.

• We travel together—retreats, nature trips, cultural adventures, and spontaneous getaways.

• We support each other’s goals and hold space weekly to plan, reflect, and grow—whether that’s a vision board night or a walk-and-talk.

• We have rituals—date nights, spiritual practices, energy work, and weekly check-ins to stay aligned.

• We move with polarity—she leads with her feminine, I lead with my masculine, and we both respect and feed that dynamic.

• We build a shared life at a pace that feels secure and exciting—living together when the timing is right, co-owning projects, and dreaming big together.

• We talk openly—honest, kind communication is our norm, even when it’s hard.

• We celebrate each other’s wins and hold each other through challenges—we’re a team.

• We don’t lose ourselves in the relationship—we keep evolving individually, while growing stronger together.

What I Value in a Partner

• Magnetic connection – There’s undeniable chemistry—physically, emotionally, and energetically.

• Loyalty and shared vision – She’s loyal, communicative, and committed to building a life together. We’re both all-in.

• Emotional and spiritual maturity – She’s emotionally secure, self-aware, and spiritually grounded. We grow together.

• Supportive energy – She’s feminine, nurturing, kind, and brings warmth and radiance to my life. She wants me to win.

• Lifestyle alignment – We naturally fit. Health, ambition, adventure, and building something meaningful are in her DNA.

What I’m Not Available For

I’m not looking to fix, save, or convince anyone to grow. I’ve done the work to create a life I love, and I’m only open to someone doing the same.

I don’t resonate with people who:

• Are dishonest or disloyal in relationships

• Are emotionally unavailable or immature

• Build lifestyles around partying, drama, or vices

• Chase male attention or rely on validation from others

• Lack ambition, growth, or direction

This isn’t about perfection—it’s about alignment. I know who I am and where I’m going. I’m looking for someone excited to walk beside me and build something rare, beautiful, and powerful—together.

If this is you or you know someone, send me a dm on Instagram: @phattanle.